First, you need to know something: you are the perfect size. Yes, YOU, darling. You’re also the perfect height, weight, shape and age.
If you already know this about yourself, great! We’re well on our way. If you don’t know this about yourself yet, try it on. Entertain the thought, or at least ask it in for coffee. What if, in this wonderfully diverse world with its myriad tastes and concepts of beauty, you were the perfect blend? What if you were the gold standard; the ideal? Well, why not? If you’re still resisting the idea, please realize that the sad, anxious, discomfited “reasons” as to why not exist only in your head. Honestly. I know many people hold on to insults and demeaning comments that were inflicted on them by someone even more sad, anxious and discomfited, and even believe them. Let them go. They have nothing to do with you, and everything to do with the person who spoke them.
Okay, even if you can’t quite say “I’m perfect” and mean it yet, at least think of your size, height, weight, shape and age as Right. It’s important that you think of yourself as right when you try on clothes. Too many people, especially women, think of their bodies as wrong and the garments as right, so it’s an important distinction. If you try on a pair of jeans that don’t fit, I don’t ever want to hear you say, “My ass is too big for these jeans”. No!! Your ass is perfect (or at least right); the jeans are simply the wrong size. You: right. Jeans: wrong. Got it?
And of course there are going to be clothes that flatter you more than others. Of course there are going to cuts, fabrics, patterns and trends that simply won’t work for you. Gisele Bundchen doesn’t look good in everything, either. Really. She knows what works for her. You’ll learn what works for you, too.
You owe it to yourself to celebrate your unique perfection. “Who is it that says most, which can say more than this rich praise: that you alone are you“? Let it show…let it shine…let it evolve as you do. Make yourself your own favorite project, and take joy in your creation.
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